Ways To Get Better At Small Talk
You're at a company gathering or a party with friends, but you hardly know anyone there.
Talking to people can be a chore, especially if you aren't very outgoing, and engaging in "small talk" may seem like no small task. But what if we could give you a couple of tips to make it easier.
- Ask open ended questions, not something that can be answered with a simple yes or no...this engages people and helps them to speak.
- Tell stories something that will add to the conversation, something that is you can may have experienced.
- Pay attention to people who are good at it like TV Hosts.
- Don't feel bad about saying you "hate small talk", that in itself may lead to another topic.
Anchor: Find something you two have in common right now. For example, "This cocktail is really fancy -- what's in it?"
Reveal: Share something personal with the other person. For example, "I tried a similar cocktail at a beach bar in Malibu last year and it blew me away."
Encourage: Invite them to share something personal. For example: "I can see it in your eyes that you hate cocktails. You are more of a whiskey drinker, aren't you?"
Be honest and encourage the other people to do the same.