Why do we fall in love with one person and not another?
Why do we choose and fall in love with one person versus another? That is the ultimate question.
Here at 96.1 the breeze, so many of our songs, probe the question. Plus, every nite at 7 pm Delilah's phones are jammed with listeners with the same queries.
Well, biological anthropologist Helen Fisher might have finally found some answers.
Her results just out in a recent Wall Street Journal report. It seems we all have neurological clues. Fisher developed a broad personality text, based on genes, hormones and temperament.
It can help people understand themselves and why they are attracted to certain people, both romantically and as friends or colleagues. (It turns out some personality types are attracted to people who are the opposite of them, while other types are attracted to people who are similar.) And when you know the personality type of loved ones or co-workers, you will understand how they prefer to communicate and will be able to tailor your approach to what works best.
So, what are you?
She identified four systems, each with its own host of traits: the dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen systems. Dopamine and serotonin, which are neurotransmitters, govern our “stay or go” scale, which decides how comfortable we are exploring unknown risks or whether we prefer the familiar. Testosterone and estrogen are hormones and determine the extent to which our brains express male or female traits.
It's really a fascinating study. Here is the full read.
If you feel like it, let me know what system (type) you are.
BTW: I am an estrogen/dopamine