What Makes People Charismatic? How You Can Be, Too?
Do you ever dream of working a room, and feeling like you've connected well with others? Well, according to a New York Times' article, you can improve your charisma.
Olivia Fox Cabane, a charisma coach and the author of the book "The Charisma Myth," says we can boil charismatic behavior down to three pillars.
1) The first pillar, presence, involves residing in the moment. When you find your attention slipping while speaking to someone, refocus by centering yourself.
2) Power, the second pillar, involves breaking down self-imposed barriers rather than achieving higher status. It’s about lifting the stigma that comes with the success you’ve already earned...The key to this pillar is to remove self-doubt, assuring yourself that you belong and that your skills and passions are valuable and interesting to others.
3) The third pillar, warmth, is a little harder to fake. This one requires you to radiate a certain kind of vibe that signals kindness and acceptance. It’s the sort of feeling you might get from a close relative or a dear friend. It’s tricky, considering those who excel here are people who invoke this feeling in others, even when they’ve just met. To master this pillar, Ms. Cabane suggests imagining a person you feel great warmth and affection for, and then focusing on what you enjoy most about your shared interactions.
Lastly adds Ms. Cabane,
Much like learning any other skill, sometimes it will go well and often it won’t, especially at first. But if you think of charisma as a skill tree, each practice session is merely a way to brush up on the many ways to climb it.
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